I have been on PoF on and off; and had my account deleted as I raised the fact that too many women on their were on multiple dating sites and there profiles were not genuine real.
It seems they are happy for women to take the mick, but a bloke tries it or flags a scam they are blocked and have there account deleted with no recourse.
Be very aware on here of time wasters who want there ego's massaged and will string you along for ages!
It started out as a good idea, but lately Markus is been instituting a lot of changes that mostly in my opinion are not for the better. You can't search for or even contact anyone who is 14 years younger than you are, and I think this only applies to men. You can keep your pictures private, but you can't send private pictures to someone, so you have to post them publicly in order for a potential match to see them. There is no longer a link to the forums posted anywhere on the site, and when you complain to the administration, they tell you to Google it. That's fine, but if you're a new user and don't know that the forums exist because, how do you know to Google it? Most people would figure that because there is no link for forums, they don't exist, therefore they won't Google it! And Markus and a few of his moderators seem to have an attitude with the way they respond to questions posted in the forums concerning recent changes.
Furthermore, I was a member for about 9 months and sent messages to several women I had an interest in and got very few replies. The fact that I got so few replies really doesn't bother me but it makes me wonder if POF has a subroutine in their programming that rejects a certain amount of initial contact emails sent by men to women, if the man (like myself) is not a paying member.
All in all, it started out as an "okay" experience, but the last straw for me was the age restrictions and the fact that they are eliminating the "Intimate Encounters" selection on profiles. I'm not interested in an intimate encounter or dating women 14 years my junior, but I don't need to be mollycoddled by a computer! You can filter your emails to reject messages from people outside of your desired age range, so this step is unnecessary and will only result in people lying about their ages or creating multiple accounts which violates their TOS.
I gave POF one star only because this site will not allow you to give zero stars!
As someone who has had no luck finding a boyfriend in real life I made an account thinking why no try the hole online dating thing god did it suck!
The only guys to try to talk to me were in there 50's (Being 18 I was looking more for some one closer to my own age) with every message i got it was either hi let me see your tits or hi have sex with me. As someone who just got out of high school I was more then done with the hole give me sex crap this site is a waist of time.
Most of the men are players. They have no respect for women. After about 2 messages, they write dirty stuff to you and then send nude photos. I really don't care to see what they look like in the shower. Some are just so fat and flabby, it is disgusting.
POF nearly ruined my life when I got involved with a "player." thing is: he told me he wasn't a player only to have 2 other girlfriends that he took horseback riding and the other is off and on. The man is a sex fiend and lives in a cottage on Conesus Lake. His 4 year girlfriend has put a hit on me. She wants to kill me. Oh, I'm scared! LOL! She doesn't know who she's playing with and I'm gonna go dig her grave if she keeps threatening me because she's going to be lying in it.
And to make things worse, this lunatic I dated is on every freaking dating site on the net. I found nude photos of him with 2 different women and doing the nasty outside of his cottage on a picnic table. it was disgusting. with me, he was a complete gentleman, with them? He thinks he's Christian Grey from "50 shades of Grey." I really do believe he thinks he's that guy sans the $$$$. It's a sicko site. they are all the same on there. I just happen to meet the worst one. why don't they look for online predators like this clown? Another guy on there has an arrest record for 2nd and 3rd degree harrassment and I know he beat up his girlfriend, yet they keep him on there. The site has no respect for women either.
If tech support does not screw with your account then you will meet a crazy. Do not pay for an upgrade they will only hide your account so you are not seen by the other people. Stay away, tech support has taken down my photos. Tech support has found a new way to screw with me everyday. After months of talking, talking, talking to these women and building a repore, pof shut down my account. Stay away, save your sanity and your prize posetions it is the worst site ever.
Since relocating to Florida from Michigan, I began using POF to meet new people in my area. Based on my experience, 99% of the women that I have contacted and met are just looking for a one-time free meal.
Then it's off to the next sucker!
That's been my experience.... maybe there are some sincere women on POF, but I have yet to meet one.
Hope this helps, Guys...............
This website is completely full of timewasters. Women who especially do not look like their photos and are continually hedging their bets with the next guy that pops into their inbox. When you have a free website, the danger is that you end up with a load of timewasters who are there for reasons of curiosity and not to actually meet someone; which exactly what this website has. But, without the cross selection of timewasters, you would get them clicking the adverts; this website has nothing to do with dating and everything to do with making money; complete and utter free for all of people with issues, angst and the use of bad language is disgusting. And, do not join as a paid member fall for the array of teasing benefits that comes with it; complete waste of time for just having a badge on your profile. This website is over hyped, unless you want to be driven mad by a load of women of all ages all acting like they have just come out of kindergarten.
This site is so rubbish if i was you i would not go on here full of scammers and married men who just want to get their leg over so steer well clear if i was you !
I guess I went in with high expectations...that was a mistake. I've tried to make contact with girls I though were my match, just to be slapped down with now reply. I have had girls say that they are generally interested in me and that they wanted to meet. I would try to schedule a time, then they would ignore me. Then the next day, there they are back on the photo board chatting with others. I don't get it. I'm a good looking guys with a lot to offer....I'm getting nothing back. Screw it!!
After going on some really fun dates I found the love I've been looking for! He is amazing, smart, fun, and passionate about us! I would highly recommend this site for anyone looking for love!!! Thank you plenty if fish for finding my husband!
I thought Plenty of Fish was wayyyy to easy to pick up females. The people who are complaining must not be handsome enough to attract females. I never sent a female a message ever on that site and I get messages all the time from females. I'm just a normal guy. I work out and I like to make sure I'm looking good.
I guest you can say the females want high standards on there. 95% of the females I have talked to on there all wanted to meet like either that day or the next. Maybe I'm just luck or I don't know. Alot of my friends doesn't have no issues on there either. Lets be real, the site is called "Plenty of Fish" so who in their right mind honestly believe they going to find a wife on a site named that. Ahah.
This is my advice. Be the fisherman. Put out your best looking bate and just be yourself when the fish bite. Females don't like guys who try too hard because when you don't try. It leaves them wondering and that makes them want you more.
I lived in west palm beach county in 2010 & 2011, Got on plenty of fish, sent out hundreds of messages, got 1, yes I said 1 date after several months of trying. Long story short, I move to , I get on plenty of fish this week (4 1 2013) what do I see,at least 20 if not more of the same damn women from palm beach on jax pof. This asshole Markus (owner) has a giant scam going. He takes profiles from one place and runs them in another city. How are u going to know unless u move or travel. What a scam. Top it off, I tried to upload photo from phone, they said I need 300 x 300 pixels. I didnt upload a photo and got 3, yea 3 responces. One wanted to chat, couldnt make it work, I sent number, she called. No pic now, she called, yea right. We talked, she sent email address,I sent pic, then poof, shes gone, shes deleated. They sent messages to get me involved, excited , so I would upload photo, then they would have sent a lot of em to try to get me to join, as per pay money. Thats what this is all about, MONEY. SAVE YOUR MONEY AND TIME, GO ELSEWHERE. TOTAL SCAM P.S. Im 6ft 185 nice looking, Its not me POF SUX.
I have been a member of Plenty of Fish for some time now and but I am now seriously considering leaving the site. Frankly, I don't know why it's taken me this long to come to the decision to do so.
It is starting to dawn on me that this is a complete joke of a dating site. For starters, while there are many girls on the site the vast majority just ignore any messages you send them. I have experienced this many times. Despite putting serious thought into any messages I send and being completely respectful and honest in them hardly anyone has ever responded and those who did turned out to not actually be interested in dating (somewhat defeating the whole point of a DATING site). Worse still, only two girls have ever expressed interest in me and both of them closed their accounts mid conversation. This is particularly true of a girl who expressed interest in meeting me recently - a girl by the name of Angharadrobs90. Having been identified as a mutual match on the site's Meet Me feature I contacted her and we seemed to really hit it off. We chatted back and forth for a little while and were even in the process of trying to arrange an in person meet up. It was proving a bit difficult due to her work commitments but she genuinely seemed interested in me and really seemed to want to meet me in person. Then one day, after I hadn't heard from her a few days (due to work I presume), I was checking my inbox on the off chance that I might have got a response from her and I saw that she had seemingly disappeared from the site, now showing up as Deleted User. I did a search for her profile and it appeared that she had closed her account. Now I can understand that a person might have genuine and understandable reasons for closing their account but closing an account while actively in contact with someone on the site and even leading them on without as much as a message to explain or apologise is at best rude and impolite and at worst insensitive and cruel. Having looked through the Plenty of Fish forums it appears that this is actually something that happens quite often on the site, with many girls just disappearing while things are seemingly going very well. Frankly, I consider this just plain wrong.
So, if you want a dating site where girls will actually respond to your messages this is not the site for you. And if you want to meet someone who is genuinely interested in dating and will actually think twice before they do something as hurtful as disappearing without any kind of explanation then is also definitely not the site for you.
Plenty of Fish has brought me nothing but pain and heartache and if you want to avoid experiencing these things yourself I would suggest you steer clear and try another dating site.
The men on this site complain about the women being gold diggers with expectations that are entirely too high. That may be true. However, I don't date women, so I can't say one way or the other. I do, however date men and I can tell you that if you are looking for a bizarre relationship, a completely sexual relationship, no relationship, or if you're looking to date men who think they are God's gift to the world or just plain losers? Join Plenty of Fish!
Make sure you go into it expecting NOTHING!
The nice so called "normal" college educated men who have white collar jobs are on here to ... with secret fetishes and porn star aspirations. Males of EVERY kind are on there. From EVERY background. Who just want one thing. Sex.
They can write the prettiest things you'd ever want to hear, including promises that even a The Little Mermaid didn't get. But in the end, you'll get sub-par communications skills, 0 personality skills, bad breath, and a machismo stench you can't get off of you for years.
Plenty of Fish is Craigslist, but with water. If you're a bottom feeder or looking for one? Hop in the pond! You won't be disappointed!
How come I'm actually a genuine single (separated) person looking for friendships (without benefits) with women but, because of my age (50) and gender, am typecast as a filthy cheating middle aged man just looking for sex, by users and reviewers of this site?
How come I've had endless conversations with women on POF, but never managed to meet one? I assumed it must have been me, until I joined two other sites and have met a total of 8 different women in 12 months through them (five of whom I enjoy ongoing, enjoyable and stimulating friendships with)....but still nothing or no-one from POF...
How come there are so many women who do not include their own photos on their POF profiles but insist that you must have one to contact them?
How come this wonderful 'free' site has the creeping paywall - you now have to upgrade to see if someone's read your message; you now have to upgrade if you want to search for people looking for intimate encounters....I'd always thought one of the big plusses of this site was that you can message people for nothing - how long before that's nobbled and message sending will require the ubiquitous upgrade first?
So I guess I'll just keep pretending I'm a genuine man looking for friendships with women, whereas everyone knows I'm really a dirty sleazebag only interested in one thing who tells a pack of lies on his profile and whose ultimate aim is to hookup with someone young enough to be my daughter....
But how come when you're female you can proudly use expressions like 'cougar', 'looking for friend with benefits', 'wanting to relieve the boredom of a loveless marriage', 'wanting me time', even 'I love sex'....and other spicy cliches....and everyone accepts that as totally cool and appropriate - because it's about women being assertive and taking control of their lives....
So how come I've deleted my profile from POF? Maybe because I've found several other sites that are infinitely better.
Yep...I was new to the area and hadn't heard the name but put two and two together when hearing details on the radio...Google the name and low and behold there he was...10 years younger in shackles. Got out on a technicality and was looking for some one new...I was on his favorite list....he went back to prison on a parole violation. He was actually one of the nicer men...
Have met some nice guys but no chemistry....sigh!
I guess it's true, you get what you pay for. I spent about two months on the site before deleting my account. 98% of the men I had spoken to either didn't have a job, didn't have a car, or were on house arrest. A few were all three and lived at home with their parents. Men started getting smart and put they were looking for relationships when they just wanted to see how many girls they could hook up with. POF is a breeding ground for STD's so be careful who you waste your time on. I'm sure there might be decent men on their but the majority of them aren't worth the time or effort.
I signed up on POF after moving to a new area. While I had no trouble meeting men at the bars or near my workplace, I wanted an easier way to find someone who shares my interests. POF seemed to be a good way to do that.
I received a couple of dozen messages from men in surrounding areas. Majority of the men contacting me were either older than my father or had nothing in common with me (ie looking for a hookup or wanting to get high together). Out of the few men that have peaked my interest, I found out that one was using a picture from a decade ago and another one was married with a child. I have met with 2 guys that I'm now friends with but that's about the extent of it. All the other dates I've agreed upon ended with men flaking out at the very last minute.
POF has a lot of imperfections. They match you with people who have none of your interests, beliefs, etc. or ones that live 50+ miles away. Majority of the men have had their profiles for years which makes you wonder why they haven't found a woman yet. There are a lot of desperate men who will agree to everything you say. There are a lot of men who use deceptive images. Many men claim to have certain interests just to increase traffic to their profiles. So just because a guy claims he likes hiking, it doesn't mean that he's willing to go hiking with you nor has he actually hiked before.
Anyway, as long as you don't expect miracles, POF might or might not work for you. The two friends I've made on this site made the weeding through all the creeps worth it. However, I still haven't found a romantic partner and I don't think its very likely that I will.
Well, I have been on there so many times. Thinking this time might be different. Never is.
I was on there almost 1.5 yrs ago and just went back on there other day to notice that its basicaly the same guys!! Saying the same stuff!!
With my pix and profile I seem to attract alot of handsome blk men! Which is totally fine, however I meet up with them and it's just "games" and 'players" I seriously can not believe that steps and BS men will say to just get "some". It's insane to me. I am a great girl and I know what I want and have alot of offer...and I am on the site so I have to assume there are good people like me on there as well.
I have friends that meet, married, kids....I also think the same people that pay for a site are also crusin POF.....so stay strong weed thru the bad one, go out and enjoying meeting people, players...etc... At least I know what I want and won't settle. I think of it as a waste of time, but rather a experience, a lesson,
Can anyone tell me if POF hold back or limit the emails that you send? If they do, are you told about it at the time? I am highly suspicious about the site and the communications I am sending. I am getting no emails or 'meet me' and no one appears to be viewing my profile. I have been on the site for some time, and now I'm constantly getting popups about upgrading and just today when i clicked on a member's photo, I was taken to another site called 'The Dating Agency' looks very similar to POF but you pay! I have emailed the admin team, but 24 hours later I've had no response.
If anyone can shed any light on their practices I'd be very grateful.